Teen Therapy vs. Life Coaching

Not All Teens Need Therapy.

Some parents are hesitant to take their teen to a therapist to address challenges they may be facing, afraid that they will be labeled “problem” kids or emotionally disturbed. Seeking my assistance as a Teen Life Coach and Mentor offers yet another opportunity to remedy these problems.

10+ years as a Teen Therapist has paved the way for my developing creative and positive ways of supporting teenagers. I provide a safe, non-judgmental space for your teen to explore their obstacles, ask their questions and express their feelings.

In contrast to therapy, where the therapist is seen as the expert, life-coaching can be presented to your teen as a collaborative effort between myself and your teen. My focus is ultimately on helping your teen create a vision of the life they would like to create, and supporting them in their journey towards that goal.

Sometimes you may not have the time or energy to be as available to your teen as you would like. It has been said that “It takes a whole village to raise a child.” It can be reassuring to know that I am available to assist you in guiding your adolescent towards becoming their best version of themselves.

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Is Your Teen Being Bullied?

A solid anti-bullying campaign starts in the home – with loving parents. 

“As a new father, I will serve as the champion defender for my son. I do not want him to be the target of a bully’s reckless comments, but I cannot isolate him in a protective bubble. He will, one day, feel the sting of someone’s deliberate arrows of cruelty. And to prepare him, I will spend plenty of time coaching my son on how to neutralize the comments from an angry peer.” ~ Nick Vujicic

Many times a bully is seeking power. If they don’t receive a sense of having some legitimate power at home, they may seek power outside the home which can present in the form of bullying. I also think it is important for us to understand that kids who are bullied may be attracting the attention of the other kids in ways that make them feel uncomfortable. Perhaps they are smaller, acting in unusual ways, or lacking maturity and/or social skills. The bully then exploits these other kid’s discomfort, leading them to pick on the victim, or simply reacts out of their own discomfort.

We live in a world where differences in preference and opinion abound. Teaching your teen self-love and acceptance, and helping them to become comfortable in their own skin, will enable them to respond in ways that will prevent the bullies from deriving the satisfaction they are seeking from their bullying behavior.

It is up to parents and teachers to truly listen, as well as keep the lines of communication open with the children in their care. It is essential that kids to realize that they do not have to handle being bullied – alone. Working together with me, we can find a way for victims and bullies alike, to safely get assistance.

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Young-Adult Mentoring 19-24

Becoming an independent young-adult in today’s world economy can be a daunting prospect for teens graduating from high school. 

Even with a college degree, young-adults are struggling to find work that will allow them to move out and live on their own. Rising costs of gas, housing, food, insurance, and the high competition for available jobs are forcing many young people to spend their 20’s still sharing their parent’s home.

Relationships are another area where young-adults can struggle. Wanting to create lasting bonds, they don’t always consider who would be a good long-term match for them, given their family values, and their dream for their life. Past failed relationships can also leave them hesitant to open their hearts and try love again.

For first generation immigrant families, there can be even more challenges, as parents and their young-adult children attempt to reconcile contemporary and traditional values. “Old World” parents can find their “New World” children’s behavior confusing, and even disturbing, and feel frustrated in their efforts to help them navigate this unfamiliar new culture.

As a teen therapist, I have extensive experience working with the teen and young adult population, as well as multi-cultural families. By addressing the following young-adult themes, I help young-adults take their next steps towards independence:

  • Manifesting Your Dreams – Define and embark on your vision for your life.
  • Mastering Life Skills – Learn practical skills necessary to be successful in the world.
  • The Art of Relationships – Discover what it takes to create the relationship you always dreamed of.

In private workshops, participants are guided in exercises designed to help them reach their specific goals in the areas of work, relationships and financial independence. The interactions are designed to be fun and uplifting, as well as productive, building upon previous completed tasks. Participants should come ready to embrace change … and see their life evolve in amazing new ways!

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Teens At Risk For Drug Addiction

Self-medication is often an attempt to avoid uncomfortable emotional states. 

Adolescence, with all the changes that accompany it, can be an intense time where teens are often overwhelmed by new feelings. Many kids so strongly dislike feeling sad, anxious, angry or insecure that they will do anything to avoid these feelings, such as drinking and/or taking mood altering chemicals. Experimentation with drugs seems to have spread to include middle school, or even younger.

In a society where we have become extremely technological, many people have disconnected from nourishing relationships in favor of virtual ones. From television viewing, to Internet surfing, to text messaging–people are spending more time with their phones and computers. The co-regulation of emotional states, once available to teens through chatting with parents, siblings and extended family members, neighbors and friends, is getting interrupted through less emotionally fulfilling forms of interaction.

In a perfect world, children learn how to deeply connect to others in the early stages of their life. Recent research in brain function has proven that love is a human necessity; its absence damaging not only individuals, but to our whole society. Close emotional connections actually change the brain in those who engage in them, affecting both our sense of self and experience of life, making empathy and socialization possible. Teens who entertain themselves solely with computers can be left vulnerable to feelings of low self-esteem and hindered social skills.

Ideally, we want to understand a teen’s relationship with their drug of choice. How often are they using? Why this particular drug? What negative feelings are they trying to avoid? If you have noticed changes in your child’s behavior that leads you to suspect that drugs are involved, call me!

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Teens With Learning Differences

Might your adolescent have a learning disorder? Read on to learn about special school accommodations that can be provided as support.

Psycho-diagnostic testing is used to determine the cause and nature of a teen’s difficulties with academic performance. These tests can either be administered by a private psychologist, or through your school district. These tests often identify potential learning disorders.

Common learning disorders include:

Once we determine that your teen would benefit from an Individualized Education Plan (IEP), your child becomes eligible for special accommodations at school. Some of these include, but are not limited to:

  • Being moved to the front of the classroom.
  • Receiving extra time on tests and quizzes.
  • Being excused from participation in Physical Education classes.
  • Being excused from having to study a foreign language.
  • Written instructions from the teacher regarding homework assignments.
  • Access to the school psychologist during school hours.
  • Extra time with the teachers.

Clarifying the problem is our first step towards getting your teen the support they need. It is important that school personnel understand that your teen’s challenges are not originating from a behavioral problem. (although frustration stemming from unaddressed learning challenges can result in “acting out” behaviors)

While learning disorders do present a challenge to your teen’s academic success, they do not need to derail their educational process. With emotional and educational support, teens with learning disorders can have a positive and successful high school experience.

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Teen Social Skills Coaching

Does your teen have the social skills that will lead them to success?

More than ever before, there is an increasing need for social skill-building experiences for young people. I help socially anxious adolescents to identify areas where they can improve their social skills, and then teach them tips and tricks to improve those skills. I can help your teen learn how to gain and keep more friends, as well as become more confident in social situations.

The value of your teen working with me privately, rather than in a group setting, is that I can give them direct feedback specific to their situations, as well as create exercises, role-playing and homework that will help them achieve their personal goals. The teens that have worked with me report greater peace and satisfaction in their social lives.

Topics Covered Include:

  • First Impressions
  • Reaching Out to Others
  • Managing Peer Conflict
  • The Art of Conversation
  • Becoming More Assertive
  • Communicating Your Needs
  • Establishing Firm Boundaries
  • Helpful Responses to Bullying

I usually work with teens for 6 to 10 consecutive weeks, depending on the desired result. Some teens prefer to meet twice-weekly, to obtain a more rapid outcome. My style of working with a teen is collaborative and fun. Although I respect that the challenges they may be experiencing are serious, I have found that a joyful atmosphere makes the learning feel more uplifting and comfortable.

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(310) 951-5678

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Is Your Young-Adult Child Struggling?

For some young adults, the prospect of becoming independent may feel beyond reach.

A common theme that I have discovered holding young-adults back from moving forward with their lives is unfinished emotional work from childhood. Sometimes, life throws us a curve ball, and we are not prepared on how best to respond. Illnesses, the death of loved ones, divorce, change of jobs, change of residence, and change of schools can all contribute to upheaval within a family.

If a teenager is unable to develop the effective coping skills necessary to meet these challenges head-on, they may avoid maturing emotionally. They may resort to self-medication, or unhealthy relationships with food, sex, technology and peer drama to avoid their uncomfortable feelings. They may also create beliefs which can later become self-fulfilling prophesies, like “I’m not talented enough to pursue my passion of being a ______.” “I could never make it on my own.”

My job is to support young adults in exploring their current challenges, so that together we might understand them in new and more helpful ways. By helping identify and address unresolved emotional issues, I empower young clients to take next steps towards creating an independent, self-sustaining life for themselves.

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(310) 951-5678

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Free Initial Consultation

There is an inner experience that is driving your teen’s behavior, and my goal is to help uncover and address it.

Helping teens who are experiencing emotional reactivity requires more than just receiving a description of their behavior. For example, symptoms of emotional overwhelm can be seen in kids being bullied, families whose parents are undergoing separation/divorce, kids witnessing parental conflict, experiencing parent-child conflicts, or undiagnosed learning challenges.

The reason I offer a FREE Initial Parent Consultation is to confirm that I am a good match for your family. My intention is to guide you in ways you can support your teen, with the focus on solutions that will unite the family rather than assigning blame. During this time, you will get an immediate and direct experience of the value I provide.

It is important to interview both the parents and teen, asking a range of questions about the teen’s health and early development, family dynamics, and school related issues. From this thorough initial interview, it can generally be determined if other specialists may need to be considered in addressing the cause(s) of the teen’s challenges, in order to turn this situation around.

My world travels and work as a teen therapist have exposed me to people of many backgrounds. What I have learned from my experiences both abroad and locally, is that we are not different in matters of the heart. Thus, the pervading theme of my work has been encouraging the practice of kindness and understanding within our families and communities.

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(310) 951-5678

Taking the Trouble out of the Teen Years
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Providing service for: Beverly Hills, Brentwood, Culver City, Los Angeles, Malibu, Pacific Palisades, Santa Monica, Venice, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, and Topanga Canyon.

Could Your Teen Use A Life Coach?

Is immersion in texting and social media is interfering with your teenager’s ability to master social and emotional intelligence?

For many teens, texting has become far more comfortable for them than speaking in person. Yet, a teen’s social skills and ability to carry on a conversation have a major impact on the impression they make on their teachers, potential employers and adults in positions of authority.

As you know, the teen most likely to stand out from the crowd is the one who can communicate effectively, manage their feelings, and behave in a respectful and mannerly fashion. These ones make the team, ace the interview, and are invited back as an honored guest by their friend’s parents. This is where I can be of assistance.

It would take your teen years to learn on their own all that I could teach them in just a few short months. All they would need to bring is a willingness to be coached, and a desire to build their life on a solid and sustainable foundation.

The value hiring a mature mentor for your teen is that I have honed my social skills, developed tried and true emotional coping skills, and have a solid understanding of the character traits necessary to overcome life’s obstacles. I offer a holistic approach to helping your teen become their best version of themselves … and thrive in all aspects of their life.

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(310) 951-5678

Taking the Trouble out of the Teen Years
www.sandradupont.com

Providing service for: Beverly Hills, Brentwood, Culver City, Los Angeles, Malibu, Pacific Palisades, Santa Monica, Venice, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, and Topanga Canyon.

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Your question has an answer.

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